Film Analysis 3

Kristen Halbritter
Film Analysis 3: The Hunger Games
November 30, 2016
COMM 320

The Hunger Games

1) The Hunger Games is a movie that was released in 2012 with a rating of PG-13 and the major characters in this movie are Katniss Everdeen and Peeta Mellark of District 12.  This movie is set in a post-apocalyptic world where the Capitol of Panem maintains control over 12 Districts by holding an annual 'Hunger Games.' A boy and a girl from each District are picked at random, called Tributes, to compete against one another to the death.  Every citizen watches this televised event until there is only one Tribute remaining.  Katniss Everdeen and Peeta Mellark are the Tributes representing District 12.  Now their lives rely on their wooing, weaponry, and survival skills. How will they do in the games?

2) Peeta and Katniss have an interesting relationship. They started off only as acquaintances and the only thing they really had in common was that they both lived in District 12 and had a brief encounter with each other previously.  What really marked the beginning of their friendship/relationship was when they both were taken as Tributes to participate in the Hunger Games.  They became closer and closer in training and helped each other survive in the Games which lead to eventually winning together (even though they weren't supposed to. When they were the only two standing and thought they could win together after being told that they could, the rule changed and were told that there could only one winner.  They decided that they would rather die together than have only one of them walk out alive.  However, the game maker stopped them before they committed suicide and announced them both winners).  They relate to each other in that they originate from the same District, they were both taken to the Games, they won the Games together, and they now both live as Victors of the Games.  They relate to each other verbally in that they both acknowledge and express the mutual care and love they have developed for one another.  They also discuss their previous encounter where Peeta threw bread to Katniss when she was weak and out in the rain.  They also relate in that they kind of communicate in the same way.  Katniss and Peeta are both quiet and mellow.  Peeta, however, is more of a people pleaser.  For example, he was waving out the window when he arrived at the Capitol.  He also tried to get Katniss to leave him when he was injured because it would raise her chances of survival.

3) Katniss and Primrose (her sister): They have a very close relationship.  Out of love and concern for her sister, Katniss volunteered in her place after Prim was chosen as a Tribute.  Based off of Katniss' sacrifice to go in Prim's place, I would say that they are in the bonding stage.  She publicly displayed her commitment and love for her sister and throughout the movie expresses how much she cares about her.

Katniss and Peeta: The movie depicts their relationship to be seen in two different ways, the way the people in the movie see the two and how their relationship actually is, as seen by the viewer.  During the Games, there was an announcement that said there could be two Victors, both being from the same District.  When that was announced, Katniss went and found Peeta. When they were the last two standing, there was another announcement that stated there could only be one Victor instead of two.  Instead of one killing the other, Katniss pulled out poisonous berries for them both to eat instead of only one of them walking away alive.  Before they ate the berries, it was announced that they had both won.  Katniss and Peeta, as a result, had to lie about being madly in love and not being able to live without each other as a way to explain their actions. This would prevent people from thinking that what they did was a sign of mutiny against the Capitol by disobeying the rules.  It would prevent an uprising from the Districts.  So, the people of Panem, based on this lie, see Peeta and Katniss most likely in the integrating stage.  They see them both as the recent Victors of the Hunger Games, and as a couple.  They are seen as and referred to as a single unit.  However, their relationship, as seen by the viewer,  really develops to be in the beginning of the intensifying stage.  Even though they are only acquaintances at the beginning of the movie, they work their way up to the intensifying stage through their experience of being at the Games together and get closer and closer as a result. This is seen by their communication being more open and intimate.  Towards the end of the movie, they talk more openly with each other about feelings and what they are experiencing.

4)  One very clear conflict arose when Katniss went to get the medicine for Peeta.  It was out in the open, and she had to be aware of her surroundings to avoid getting killed.  She ran to get the medicine but after she retrieved it, she was attacked by another Tribute from District 2.  She threw a knife and it grazed Katniss' forehead.  Katniss tried to shoot her 2 times but missed.  When they met, they struggled for a while until she pinned Katniss down and put a knife to her throat.  She then started teasing Katniss about trying to help "lover boy" (Peeta) and went on by saying it was too bad that she wasn't able to help her little friend, Rue. She proceeded to say, "we killed her, and now we're going to kill you." (Rue was an alliance with Katniss.  She helped Katniss fight other Tributes and when Katniss was hurt, Rue watched over her.  Rue was killed by another Tribute and Katniss honored her by surrounding her with flowers and saluting Rue's District.)  Before the rival Tribute killed Katniss, the male from Rue's District grabbed her, ripped her off of Katniss,  pinned her against a wall and asked, "Did you kill her?!" to which she responded, "No!" and he said, "I heard you!" and while she was yelling for her ally to come help her, he yelled, "You said her name, you said her name!" and proceeded to kill her.  After doing away with her, he let Katniss get away this one time in honor of Rue.  Katniss then left and brought the medicine to Peeta.  Anyways, the conflict that I want to evaluate is between the girl from District 2 that tried to kill Katniss and Katniss herself.  This conflict obviously had an extreme style of Competing.  To be more specific, it was direct aggression, both physically and verbally.  Katniss was silent and struggling for her life while her rival threatened, ridiculed, and teased her.  This was about to be a win-lose situation ending in death until the male from Rue's district came and turned the tables in the same manner against Katniss' rival.

5) Before Katniss had to go to the Capitol on the train, she was allowed 3 minutes with her family to say goodbye.  Her sister Primrose and her mother came into the room and Katniss first reassured and said goodbye to Prim.  Then she went over to her mom and it was evident that she had little respect for her.  She looks bluntly at her mother and says, "You can't tune out again." to which her mother replies, "I won't." Katniss goes on with, "No, you can't. Not like when dad died. I won't be there anymore, you're all she has. No matter what you feel, you have to be there for her, you understand? Don't cry." She then roughly pulls her mother in for a hug and says, "Don't cry, don't, don't." This marks the end of their time together and soldiers from the Capitol take her family away.  Then Katniss' friend Gale comes in to say goodbye and tells her that she is strong and can win.  As soldiers pull Gale away, Katniss tells him to take care of them (her family) and to not let them starve.  What I think would help the relationship between Katniss and her mother is if Katniss exhibited more empathy for her mother and if her mother expressed more clearly how she is feeling, especially after the death of her husband.  They should sit down and talk about what has been going on to improve the relationship.  More specifically, they should try Collaborative Problem Solving where Katniss and her mother can express their unmet needs and problems, consider each others point of views and figure out how to overcome and work through the problems together.  However, this would have to wait for another time, after the Games are over.

6) Metacommunication could definitely be used to improve the relationship between Katniss and her mother.  From the situation described above, it is evident that they do not communicate very well.  When Katniss told her mother to not cry, you could see the look in her mother's face that expressed she was shocked and kind of hurt.  How can a mother not cry when her daughter essentially has a death sentence?  She would never see her again if she lost the Games.  Anyways, from the get go, when her mother first tuned out after the death of her husband, Katniss should have expressed that she didn't appreciate her mother's lack of communication and distance with her and Prim.  Katniss' mother should have expressed how she didn't appreciate what Katniss said to her when they were saying goodbye.  To fix their relationship, they need to use metacommunication because the problem in their relationship is overall lack of communication and expression of what is going on internally.

7) I think my communication behavior most resembles Katniss'. She speaks only when she has something important to say, and doesn't open up much to those she is not close with.  For example, when Peeta and Katniss were on the train headed to the Capitol shortly after they met, Katniss was silent when Peeta tried talking to her and asking her questions.  However, the more time she spent with him the more willing she was to talk, open up, and discuss personal experiences and feelings.

*I tried twice to put pictures in but for some reason it wasn't working...

Reflection #6

Kristen Halbritter
Reflection #6: Chapters 11 & 12
November 16, 2016
COMM 320

Chapter 11

1) The Show "Parks and Recreation"

"What has the communication climate been like at places where you've worked?  What role did supervisors have in setting and maintaining that climate?" -Looking Out Looking In, page 347

For four summers I worked at Camp Cherokee. My most recent title was Waterfront Director/Boat Driver/Lifeguard/Counselor.  The communication climate at Camp was always laid back, open, welcoming and warm.  My supervisor set the climate.  He was not only our supervisor and boss, but he was also a friend that wanted both the staff and campers to feel relaxed and welcomed.  If there was a disturbance or issue among staff, he would sometimes mediate if made known to him.  

 

*I'm a huge fan of Parks and Rec!

2) Jonathan Martin and the Miami Dolphins

"Have you encountered bullying in the workplace?" -Looking Out Looking In, page 350

Personally, I have not, at least not in the workplace.  However, when I was in elementary school, I used to be teased about my stutter.  In a previous blog I mentioned how that may have effected my communication behavior and tendency to be shy and quiet. 

Chapter 12

1) The Movie "The Hunger Games"

"What lessons for managing interpersonal conflict can you learn from stories like these?" -Looking Out Looking In, page 381

What I get from this is that interdependence and collaboration with others is what keep us going day to day.  Many people consider themselves pretty independent, but we all rely on others whether we admit it or not.  I can't imagine being completely alone, doing everything by myself.  Keeping peace in relationships with little conflict is essential for our happiness.  Relationships that are constantly in conflict are draining, and people become unhappy because of it.  What I also get from a story like this is that if you value the relationship, solve the conflict because the survival of your happiness may depend on it.

2) The TV Show "Blackish"

"How do culture and social class affect your personal and professional relationships?  Are these factors sometimes a source of conflict- and if so, how do you manage them?" -Looking Out Looking In, page 400

They affect my relationships because the social class and culture I grew up in exposed me to people only of similar culture and social class.  Because of the "culture" I grew up in, I am friends mostly with Adventist people due to being exposed mostly to Adventist people as a kid.  However, my social class and culture would never prevent me from being friends with people outside of it if I were exposed more to them.  I am just not exposed to many people who are outside of my social class and culture.  Because of being at Andrews, I have friends who are from different parts of the US and people who live out of the country.  I have learned about the languages they speak and about where they live because of it.  

These factors are not usually a source of conflict, however, one conflict did occur between a friend and I because of a misunderstanding of perspective with a current social issue.  I managed it by talking it out and being open to learning from their perspective. 

Homework #2

Kristen Halbritter
Homework #2
November 14, 2016
COMM 320

Pause and Reflect: Your Relational Stage

1) "If you are in a relationship, describe its present stage and the behaviors that characterize your communication in this stage.  Give specific examples to support your assessment." -Looking Out Looking In, page 290

I think me and my boyfriend, David, are currently at the end of the integrating stage and moving into the bonding stage.  We have shared identities, we are "FBO," and we have each sacrificed parts of our old selves.  For example, I watch football now and am a Patriots fan when previously I didn't really have an interest. We also have a "dogter" named Molly. (I don't have her here, but she is back at home in NY.  He was with me when I adopted her and was very involved in her rehabilitation/healing by visiting her with me.) I think we are going into the bonding stage because me and David are committed to each other and plan to get married in the near future even though we aren't officially engaged.  Once that has taken place I would consider us to be fully in the bonding stage.  

2) "Discuss the trend of the communication in terms of the stages described in this section.  Are you likely to remain in the present stage, or do you anticipate movement into another stage? Which one? Explain your answer." -Looking Out Looking In, page 290

Our communication is based mostly around us as a unit.  When I talk to other people about plans I have, I often use the word "us" or "we" referring to David and I.  Now, a lot of what we do like times to eat and where to eat and what to do on the weekend is based around whether we can do it together.  Now, when I am with other people and David is not with me, they will often ask about where he is and what he is up to.

As mentioned above, David and I are slowly moving into the bonding stage.  We are and have been talking about marriage even though we are not engaged yet.  We are committed to each other and talk about future plans often.  He is currently saving up for a ring. :)

3) "Describe your level of satisfaction with the answer to question 2.  If you are satisfied, describe what you can do to increase the likelihood that the relationship will operate at the stage you described.  If you are not satisfied, discuss what you can do to move the relationship toward a more satisfying stage." -Looking Out Looking In, page 290

I am very satisfied.  I strongly believe David is "the one." Since this is the farthest I have ever gotten in a romantic relationship, I do not have any experience being in the bonding stage with a significant other.  However,  to keep our hopeful engagement and future marriage happy and in the bonding stage as much as possible, I would say that good communication, immediate expression of thoughts and feelings, alone time, and a strong sense of commitment will keep us operating in the bonding stage. However, I know that s relationship cannot stay in one stage.  Marriage and any relationship has ups and downs... But if we were to stay in the bonding stage, I think the things mentioned above would be crucial.

4) "Because both parties define a relationship, define your partner's perspective.  Would she or he say that the relationship is in the same stage as you described? If not, explain how your partner would describe it.  What does your partner do to determine the stage at which your relationship operates? (Give specific examples.) How would you like your partner to behave in order to move the relationship to or maintain the stage you desire? What can you do to encourage your partner to behave in the way you desire?" -Looking Out Looking In, page 290

David and I think we are pretty much in the same stage.  He considers us to already be in the bonding stage even though we aren't engaged or anything.  We are committed and plan to get engaged so he considers that already in the bonding stage.   He says we are past the FBO in integrating and we have become one identity in many ways.  He says we have already publicly displayed and declared our exclusivity to peers and families. 
Our families are actually pretty invested in our relationship.  They expect us to get married and David has met a bulk of my family and I have met the bulk of his.  He has even come with us on family vacations.  I am content with the way David behaves as it is currently.  If I could change anything, it would be him asking me to marry him.  I want to be engaged pretty badly.  I already encourage him to do so by mentioning it and talking about the future even though I know he has a ring picked out,  is planning the proposal, and is saving up for the ring. 

5) "Now consider a relationship (friendship or romance) you have been in that has terminated.  How well does this Knapp model describe the development and decline of that relationship?  If the model doesn't match, develop a new model to illustrate your relationship's pattern." -Looking Out Looking In, page 290

I would say the Knapp model reflects the relationship I am thinking of pretty well.  It peaked when we talked about the future and plans for the future for years to come and we functioned as one unit and did everything together.  Then we just kind of slowly drifted apart and became our own individual person.  We just stopped spending time with each other and it slowly and eventually terminated.

What is Your Love Language? 

When I took this assessment, I got the result of having Acts of Service at the top, then Physical Touch, Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, then Receiving Gifts.  Acts of service really do make me feel loved. For example, when I'm in the car with David, I really appreciate it when he offers to pump the gas.  I really appreciate it when he is willing to help me carry my stuff to the car and help me move in and out of the dorm every year.  When we hit a rough patch, I felt awful when he didn't help me walk my stuff to the car.  

When I took the assessment, David was with me, so after I finished, he took it as well.  He got Physical Touch, Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, Receiving Gifts, then Acts of Service.  I thought it was interesting that my top love language was his last.  He told me that even though it is his last, he likes to do Acts of Service for me and other people so it was a good fit.  I'm kind of glad that Physical Touch was in both of our top love languages, because that means we are compatible in that way.  We like to receive it, so we will most likely express it to one another.  

I really enjoyed doing this assessment, it was interesting to see both mine and David's preferences! 

Reflection #5

Kristen Halbritter
Reflection 5: Chapters 9 & 10
November 9, 2016
COMM 320

Chapter 9

"Relfies: Good for You and Your Relationships"

a. "Which of the research conclusions in this readings rings most true for you? Which does not?" -Looking Out Looking In, page 298

One conclusion that is true for me is when the author says, "People take relfies when they are happy and having fun.  Emphasizing the good times in relationships benefits your relationships by increasing emotional intimacy, trust, and satisfaction." - Looking Out Looking In, page 298 

I usually take "relfies" when I am having fun whether it be with friends or with my significant other. I think it does make the relationship better because taking a "relfie" indicates that you think the event is fun enough to document.  

Another conclusion that I can relate with is, "Did you and your partner do something new, interesting, and/or challenging? (think: skydiving relfie, surfing lessons relfie, tried a new restaurant relfie).  Research shows that these types of experiences help you grow as a person and improve the quality of your relationships." -Looking Out Looking In, page 298  

It's similar to the last conclusion I mentioned.  Usually new, adventurous activities are fun, so I like to document it.  I think that "relfies" with friends or your significant other improves the relationship because it requires you to be in close proximity with the person, and it (most of the time) requires you to smile.  So, "relfies" help people correlate fun, happiness and closeness with the person they are taking it with.

One of the conclusions I do not really see as truthful is, "Couples who relfie together stay together.  Couples who have more of a "we" identity tend to have higher relationship satisfaction, intimacy, and commitment." -Looking Out Looking In, page 298  

I don't relfie with my friends or my significant other a whole ton... and I don't think it defines the amount of satisfaction, intimacy and commitment I feel from the relationships I have.  However, I can see how doing it might make one feel close to the one they are "relfie-ing" with.  However, I don't think taking "relfies" is a super important component in a relationship.

Two other conclusions that kind of go together that I don't necessarily agree with are, "Couples who feel closer to each other are more likely to display things (perhaps relfies on Twitter) that let the world know they are a couple" and "Others see you as having a better romantic relationship. No relfie? People might perceive less of a connection between you and your partner." -Both from Looking Out Looking In, page 298
I don't post many relfies on social media with my significant other, hardly at all, and that is because we like to keep our relationship kind of private.  I don't have to show off my relationship on social media often when people already know I am with someone.  Even though I can see why posting pictures with sappy captions might make someone think I have a better romantic relationship, I feel like people think well of my relationship despite not having many of them.  I just think that a relationship shouldn't be judged based on the amount of pictures someone may post with their significant other.

b. "Can you think of a social networking page that doesn't accurately reflect a friend's interpersonal relationships?  Explain how you arrived at that perception and what changes could be made." -Looking Out Looking In, page 298

I don't use every social networking site, but the one that I use that I think doesn't reflect a friend's interpersonal relationships in today's age is Gmail.  Most people use it as a business type of communication site.  Friends don't chat on Gmail like they used to and most people use Gmail to remain in contact with people they do not have close relationships with.  I think the way Gmail is used today is perfectly fine because we have a number of other sites to display our interpersonal relationships on.  A way to make Gmail better reflect interpersonal relationships would be to show who each person stays in contact with most, allow you to post pictures, or just all together get rid of other social networking sites. 

2) The Movie "The Fault in Our Stars"

"How have you communicated support to loved ones who were going through challenging times? What kind of support do you most like to receive?" -Looking Out Looking In, page 304

I have shown support to loved ones through text if I am far away by sending encouraging messages, or by verbal and physical support when I am with someone who is hurting.  I show verbal support by saying everything will be alright and other encouraging things and I show physical support by hugging the person or just being there to help them in a time of need. 
The kind of support I most definitely like is physical support.  When I'm hurt and feeling low I like to just be held with silence or some encouraging words being said.  When the time is right for me, I will start opening up and talking.

Chapter 10

1) The Movie "Her"

"To what degree do you think social media help you meet your intimacy needs? To what degree do they limit interpersonal intimacy?" -Looking Out Looking In, page 317

I think social media can meet some intimacy needs in that it allows you to talk to people privately and you can send emojis and express feelings, etc.  With other means of communication, like through skype, you can actually see each other which meets a need more than just typing words.  However, I think intimacy needs cannot be fully satisfied through social media like it could be in person.  Just merely seeing and being next to a person can fulfill intimacy needs.  Social media limits intimacy needs because you aren't with the loved one in person.  You can't feel their presence and you get no physical contact.  For me, a big part of intimacy is being able to physically be with a person and being able to touch them. 

2) The Movie "What If"

"Do you think platonic friendships can be maintained when there is the potential for romance in a relationship?" -Looking Out Looking In, page 329

To me, this question can be taken two different ways, so I will answer both of them.

Personally, I think yes and no.  If someone is in an affectionate friendship with someone and there is potential for a romantic relationship to blossom, I think it will either go forward into the romantic relationship or be terminated or maintained.  If one of the two in the friendship say that they can't have a relationship with the person for some reason, I personally would want to terminate the friendship all together because hanging out with the person as friends when you want something more with them would be torturous, at least in my opinion.  Especially when you're already super comfortable with them and you're great friends.  If somehow the friendship went on even when wanting a romantic relationship, it would be very stressful and hard to move on to another person.  So, I think it could go either way.  

If my significant other had a platonic friendship with someone of the opposite sex when I started dating them, I would have felt kind of uncomfortable.  So I would say the answer to the question is a yes and a no... platonic relationships can or cannot be maintained depending on how I went about addressing it.  I would talk to my significant other and express how I felt threatened by such an affectionate friendship and would ask to maybe tone it down.  Either that, or I would express how I felt and would ask for reassurance every now and then to help me not feel threatened and gain more trust.

Film Analysis #2

Kristen Halbritter
Film Analysis #2: The Office
November 2, 2016
COMM 320

The Office

 1) "The Office" is a TV show that first aired March 24, 2005 and was given a rating of TV-14.  This entire series from beginning to end documents the everyday lives of those working in the Scranton, PA branch of the Dunder Mifflin Paper Company under branch manager, Michael Scott.  Throughout the series, the Scranton branch experiences many changes and faces different challenges.

For this analysis, I watched the first and second episode of season 1.  The first episode, called "Pilot," introduces the characters to the documentary crew that will be following them throughout the years.  Additionally, someone from corporate, named Jan Levinson, comes into the office to talk with Michael Scott, the branch manager about possible downsizing.  

In the second episode, called "Diversity Day," corporate sends someone in to talk about embracing diversity and more importantly discuss some of the issues going on in the office regarding offensive remarks... mostly made by Michael.  After the presenter was done, Michael decides to lead his own "Diversity Day" discussion and activity.  

The main characters so far in this series are the following:

Michael Scott: Branch Manager

Jim Halpert: Salesman

Pam Beesly: Receptionist

Dwight Schrute: Salesman

2) Even after just watching the first two episodes of a 9 season long show, many different principles and concepts from chapters 5-8 of Looking Out Looking in could be observed among the character's interactions.  However, two instances in these two episodes stood out to me when it came to the principles discussed in the book.  

a. In chapter 7 of Looking Out Looking In, the topic of nonverbal communication is discussed.  Different types of nonverbal communication include environment, paralinguistics, proxemics, and territoriality.  In episode 1, Dwight and Jim are sitting at the same desk group right next to each other.  While Jim is on a phone call, Dwight displays territoriality by pushing anything that overlaps onto his desk that belongs to Jim back onto Jim's desk with a ruler.  In retaliation, Jim sets up pencils that stick straight up in between the two desks and tapes them also to his phone, tape dispenser and other things on his desk.

b. Chapter 8 of Looking Out Looking In discusses listening.  One of the sections of this chapter talks about the different types of ineffective listening which includes pseudolistening, stage-hogging, selective listening, insulated listening, defensive listening, and insensitive listening.  In the second episode, Michael very well displays stage-hogging.  When the Diversity Day speaker, Mr. Brown, came to the office and started talking, Michael continually interrupted and would try to steal the show.  For example, Mr. Brown says, "Alright, here's what we are going to do.  Uh, I've noticed that uh..." and before he could even continue, Michael turns the conversation to himself by saying, "You know what? Here's what we're gonna do..." and continues by giving his own input on what he thinks should be done. He  shows little interest or respect toward the speaker and what he is saying and he is also very uncooperative and does not sign the form handed out after the presentation that states he learned something.  Additionally, he literally hogs the "stage" by standing up front with the speaker until he is asked to sit down.  Even then, he sits in a chair that is up front and right next to the speaker.

3) As illustrated above, Michael has some listening issues. So the advice I would give him from the book Looking Out Looking In would be in regard to listening better.  The book lists a couple things that can be done to improve listening skills including talking less, get rid of distractions, don't judge prematurely, and to look for key ideas. The main advice I would give him would be to talk less.  That is his main problem being a stage hogger.  Another thing he could work on is not judging prematurely. I think Michael did this when he was criticized for the inappropriate and offensive remark he has been doing in the office.  After that was mentioned, I'm sure that he judged Mr. Brown prematurely, before he even got his point across,  and avoided listening to him from then on. 

4) The character that reminds me most of my communication behavior is Pam.  In the beginning of the first episode, Michael introduces the documentary crew to Pam while she is sitting at her desk.  Michael is kind of obnoxious while doing so and says her name 3 times kind of loudly at a high pitch voice.  He is also immature when he makes a comment on her looks and asks if he has any faxes. When Pam gives him the fax, Michael realizes it is from corporate and says how he told her that there is a special filing cabinet for things from corporate. Pam says, "You haven't told me that" and Michael quickly says, "Its called the waste paper basket" and starts laughing.  Throughout this whole ordeal, Pam is very quiet, to herself, shy, and soft spoken. She doesn't say anything to Michael probably because he is her superior and her facial expressions give the impression that she is annoyed and doesn't know what to think of him.  It seems like she suppresses her feelings as well. I feel I am like her because if I was annoyed by a superior, like my boss, I wouldn't say anything and I would just be silent and do what is expected of me.  I am also pretty quiet and soft spoken and keep a lot of my feelings to myself, which I think Pam does in this situation. 

Reflection 4: Chapters 7 & 8

Kristen Halbritter
October 26, 2016
COMM 320
Reflection 4: Chapters 7 & 8

Chapter 7

1)  "The Eyes Have It"

a. "Observe the degree of eye contact others use when they engage with you.  Based on your experience, what is the optimal level of eye contact in varying types of relationships and contexts?" -Looking Out Looking In, page 228.

To me, eye contact is a sign that the other person is comfortable, cares, and has respect for you.  I think in every context as a sign of respect for anyone, there should be some eye contact. When you are talking to a superior, I think maintaining eye contact is very important.  It shows that you are listening and are being respectful.  However, just like in any context, you don't want to make so much eye contact that it makes the person uncomfortable.  Every once in a while you should look away, probably when it is your turn to talk.  When you are talking to someone you don't know as well, it is harder to maintain eye contact because you may be uncomfortable.  However, as mentioned before, I think everyone should receive even a little eye contact just to show general respect.  Years ago, like in 7th or 8th grade, I remember one of my friends really disliked a teacher we had. I remember seeing her interact with the teacher to ask a question or something and she gave eye contact that was all over the place.  Her eyes were looking at pretty much everything but the teachers eyes with just short glances.  In a relationship where there is little respect or care for the other person, eye contact is very difficult to give and even receive from the other person.  With people I am super close with, like my significant other, my family, and good friends, giving and maintaining eye contact comes naturally and is easy to give. In conclusion,  everyone in any context or type of relationship deserves eye contact in my opinion. The closer you are to a person and the more superior a person may be over you, the more eye contact they (should) receive. 

b. "Pay attention to your level of eye contact in important personal relationships.  How might adjusting this level change the nature of your interactions?" -Looking Out Looking In, page 228.

If I give less eye contact than normal, it might indicate something is bothering me or that I am annoyed or upset by something.  If I give more eye contact it might indicate that I am feeling happier than normal.  Related to interactions, less eye contact might lead to more shallow and shorter conversations while more eye contact might lead to longer, more meaningful conversations.

2) "The movie Crazy, Stupid Love"

"How much does your appearance affect how you feel about yourself?  Can it change the way you interact with others?" -Looking Out Looking In, page 235.

I think the way people dress tells a lot about how they think of themselves.  I think if people think they are respectable, they will dress respectable.  For me, comfort is above all when it comes to my clothes.  I love shorts, t-shirts, jeans, and sweaters.  I don't keep up with style or fashion and I feel good in the way I dress.  I don't dress super fancy or anything, but I dress respectably and dress according to the occasion.  For me, at least right now, the way I dress doesn't really affect how I feel about myself.  I remember a few years ago I had pretty low self esteem and I thought I was 'chubby.'  The way I dressed reflected that.  I wore sweat pants and hid under baggy clothes. Now I feel comfortable with how I look and I feel differently about myself, so I am more comfortable wearing whatever I feel like wearing.  

Yes, the way I dress can affect the way I interact with others.  Sometimes, when interacting with others who are dressed fancier than me, I feel inferior to them.  When I am under dressed for an occasion, my self-confidence and willingness to interact may go down because I am worried about what everyone else is thinking of my wardrobe.  If I think I am dressed well and look good, I will be more confident in my interactions because I won't be worried about what others think of how I am dressed.

 Chapter 8

1)  "The movie 50/50" 

"What kinds of listening responses do you offer when someone you know is hurting?  What kind of responses do you like to receive when you're the one struggling?" -Looking Out Looking In, page 266.

A lot of the time I will ask them if they want to talk about it or I will reassure them that I am here if they want to talk about it.  Whether they open up or not I will hug them or comfort them with other gestures. When I know what is bothering the person or why they are hurting, I will say things that will comfort them and will try to cheer them up by talking about other things or by trying to make them laugh.  

When I am struggling myself, I like people to just let me cry and be with me.  I like it silent a lot of the time.  I don't like people prodding me to open up, I like to do it on my own time.  I just like to know that there is an option to open up and that there is someone there for me if need be.  

2) "The show Scandal"

"Are there times when you want advice more than empathy? Is it possible to give some of both?" -Looking Out Looking In, page 269.

Hardly.  I like advice only when I ask for it.  Even empathy is sometimes not the best for me when I'm struggling and hurting.  I like it to be silent sometimes more than people being empathetic towards me.  However, I definitely prefer empathy over advice.  

Yes, it is possible to give some of both. If you are going to give both, I would show empathy first and indicate that you know what they're going through and then give advice based on your experience. However, a lot of the time, I think people that are hurting need empathy the most and advice should only be given when asked for.

Reflection 3: Chapters 5 & 6

Kristen Halbritter
October 19, 2016
COMM 320
Reflection 3: Chapters 5 & 6

Chapter 5

1) The movie ‘Inside Out’ 

“Are you able to recognize your emotions when you experience them?” -Looking Out Looking In, page 152

I would say I recognize my emotions pretty well when I experience them.  However, sometimes I don’t realize what I’m feeling until someone asks me whats wrong or why I’m acting a certain way. When my emotions are very strong, I for sure recognize them and can tell someone myself how I am feeling and will often express it.  For example, when I’m super happy, I’ll express that I am.  If I am feeling very frustrated and upset, then I’ll let people know why.  When my emotions are not as strong, I may not be super aware unless someone mentions something to me.

2) The TV show ‘Revenge’

“What emotions typically accompany a desire for vengeance?” -Looking Out Looking In, page 159

The first emotion that came to mind when I read this question was anger.  In my own experience, I would want revenge when someone made me angry.  A very mild example in my experience would be losing a soccer game.  I would want revenge on the opposite team, to beat them the next meet up after getting upset about losing or getting upset with a certain player on the team.

Besides anger, I think another emotion that can make someone feel revengeful is sadness.  I think of Ramases the Pharaoh of Egypt after Moses, through God, sent the plagues.  After he let the Israelites leave Egypt, Ramases shortly went after them. I personally think some of the reason as to why he wanted to go after them had to do with revenge and I can imagine he was especially feeling sadness as well as anger due to his country being in ruins and his son being killed by the final plague.

Chapter 6

1) The movie ‘Mean Girls’

“Does your language reflect the groups to which you belong?”  -Looking Out Looking In, page 188

I think so.  One time I was talking with a friend about a certain program she wanted to join and she went on to explain that the people in the program speak a certain way.  She told me they speak more intellectually and proper than the average student and that she appreciated that and wanted to be a part of that.  I think some of the things I say reflect the groups of people I spend time with.  For example, I sometimes say things in Samoan because I was good friends with a Samoan family/community that would constantly use those words.  I also have certain sayings that only people in a certain group would understand or find relateable and funny.  For example, the saying, “cut me a piece.”

2) Language and Heritage

“Can you think of words and names that others use for you that denote their relationship with you,  similar to how hearing the word “Mi’ja” led Sandra Cisneros to think of her father?” -Looking Out Looking In, page 207

a.  Yes, when someone calls me “Kris” it reminds me of an old friend I no longer have contact with.  They always called me that and hardly no one else called me that.  So when people on occasion call me “Kris” I immediately think of them. 

b. “If you know another language, describe how certain concepts are difficult to translate from one language to another. Discuss the role that culture plays in this phenomenon.” -Looking Out Looking In, page 207

I don’t know another language fluently, but I know that my great grandmother had this joke she would say in Oneida and my mom told me she asked her to tell it in English and my great grandma responded with “It wouldn’t be as funny!”
I have also seen different words that represent feelings or things that we don’t have words for in English.  For example, the Filipino word “Gigil” that is a word used to describe ‘the urge to pinch or squeeze something that is irresistibly cute.’ -mentalfloss.com 
I can imagine that different languages have words for different things because it is more of a common thing to happen in the culture that the language is a part of.  Furthermore, the feelings or things that we don't have words for in English happen more or are used or felt more in other cultures that the language is a part of.

Chapter 4 Activity and Chapter 5 Pause and Reflect

Kristen Halbritter
October 7, 2016
COMM 320
Chapter 4 Activity & Chapter 5 Pause and Reflect

Chapter 4 Activity

For the chapter 4 activity I chose to do the Mood Monitor Test from  http://mood-monitor.perbang.dk/
 to monitor possible depression I can potentially have.  My results on the Goldberg Scale according to this test is a 5 out of 53, which indicates that I have no obvious signs of depression and no depression is likely.  Additionally, it says that I accept the ups and downs which are a part of everyday life.  

I agree with the results.  I have never really felt chronically depressed and I think my future is full of hope and purpose.  Even if I did feel a little hopeless, I would remember that God has a plan for my life and wouldn't let it get me down.  Everyone gets sad and blue, but I am fortunate to rarely feel those types of feelings unless it is for obvious reasons.  I am also fortunate to be surrounded by people who love and care about me and would uplift me if I did feel somewhat depressed.  

Chapter 5 Pause and Reflect 

*All quotes found in the book 'Looking Out Looking In' on page 164

1) "Take a few minutes to listen to the inner voice you use when thinking.  Close your eyes now and listen to it. Did you hear the voice? Perhaps it was saying, "What voice? I don't have any voice..." Try again, and pay attention to what the voice is saying."

- My voice was thinking about the different things I need to pack for my camping trip this fall break and about the things that I need to do before leaving such as possibly watering my plants, finishing this assignment and cleaning up my room.   

2) "Now think about the following situations and imagine how you would react in each.  How would you interpret them with our inner voice? What feelings would follow from each interpretation?"

a. "While sitting on a bus, in class, or on the street, you notice an attractive person sneaking glances at you."

- At first I know I would question with my voice whether they are actually looking at me or at another person.  Knowing myself and being an introvert,  I would start to feel uncomfortable even though I think they're attractive and would think they're kind of sketch.  I would think to myself whether I'm sending out signals I'm not aware of and would probably try to figure out why they were looking.  Then I might proceed to move to get out of their field of vision because I would be a little creeped out. 

b. "During a lecture your professor asks the class, "What do you think about this?" and looks toward you."

- At first I know for sure that I would get butterflies in my stomach and would become extremely nervous because of my stuttering problem and possibility of talking about the wrong thing.  I would try to recall what they just talked about before asking the question.  I would be thinking with my voice "Oh goodness, what did they just talk about?!" and I would go over in my head quickly what I heard and what I should say before actually saying it.  If I had no clue what to say, I would just stay quiet until they looked to another person.  If they verbally asked me after giving me the look, I would say I didn't know or would risk saying something pertaining to the wrong subject. All this is assuming I wasn't paying attention previously.  If I did know what to say, I would still get butterflies in my stomach, would go over in my head what to say real quick, then say what I thought. 

c. "You are telling friends about your vacation, and one yawns."

- At first I would think with my voice, "What the heck?! How rude!" and then I would get a little upset at them.  I would feel disrespected and not really cared about.  If they were a good friend, why would they get bored or tired with me talking about my awesome vacation?  That would be my initial reaction, but if I knew they were tired and was sure that they do really care about me, I would just make a joking comment about the yawn or would just forget it happened in the first place. 

d. "You run into a friend on the street and ask how things are going. "Fine," she replies, and rushes off."

-At first I would think with my voice, "How strange of them to do that..."  Then I would proceed to question whether they were actually okay and would want to help them.  Rather, I would assume right off the bat that they were not doing 'fine.'  I would feel worried and would call for them or run after them and offer to help and get down to the bottom of the problem.

3) "Now recall three recent times when you felt a strong emotion.  For each one, recall the activating event and then the interpretation that led to your emotional reaction."

a. This last summer I had about a weeks time where I felt very anxious and worried.  The activating event was when someone very significant in my life expressed feelings of doubt about something very important to me.  I felt like this because I interpreted that in the near future I would be abandoned in a way.  That really worried me because I invested a lot in this 'something,' and it would greatly effect my life and future plans.  Everything turned out to be okay, though.

b. When my very loved Grandmother passed away in the beginning of the school year, I obviously felt very sad.  She helped my mother raise me, was very involved in my life, and was very important to me.  She was one of strongest supports in my life.  My sadness came from the interpretation that I will never see her again in this lifetime, that I will never get to hold her hand again or hear her sweet voice.  

c.  I felt happy when I found out that I am going to Aspen, Colorado with some of my family for a bit over Christmas break for an awesome ski vacation. I became even more happy when I found out that my boyfriend can come with me too!  My interpretation that made me so happy was that I get to finally ski again after years of not being able to cause of school, getting to see the new place my uncle has out there, and getting to go with my boyfriend who has never been to CO before.  Can't wait!

Film Analysis 1- Akeelah and the Bee

Kristen Halbritter
September 28, 2016
COMM 320
Film Analysis 1

Akeelah and the Bee

1. 'How does the movie "Akeelah and the Bee" show the relationship between self-concept, self-esteem and communication behavior? Cite specific examples from the movie in support of your arguments.'

In the movie, the relationship between self-concept, self-esteem, and communication behavior is demonstrated quite well.  In the beginning of the movie, Akeelah was bullied because she got good grades on her spelling tests and as a result is called a freak, looked down on, and laughed at.  Because of being bullied and looked down upon by her peers, Akeelah doesn't have a good self-concept and as a result has bad self-esteem as well.  Because of her low self-concept and esteem, she avoids social situations that would potentially make her peers laugh at her.  This is why she was reluctant to participate in the School Spelling Bee, because she feared being laughed at and did not think she was good enough to begin with.  However, as the movie progresses, Akeelah gains support from her community and gains confidence in herself.  Her self-esteem and self-concept begins to improve and she seems a lot more happy and sociable.  After she made a friend at the District Spelling Bee, Javier, she begins to be more sociable and even goes to a birthday party where she feels accepted and welcome.  She is more open to socializing and is less hostile and to herself.


Another example is Dylan, the boy who is practicing and going to compete in the National Bee.  He avoids social situations due to his father's strict regimen.   His father doesn't show good support and has super high expectations of him.  To Dylan's father, winning is everything.  He is verbally abusive to Dylan and puts him down on various occasions.  As a result, Dylan is very quiet and to himself.  He is pretty withdrawn and does not socialize well. He acted pretty hostile towards Akeelah when they first met, and I assume his behavior is due to his self-concept, which is affected by how he is treated by his father.



2. 'Identify at least one incident of ego busting behavior and one of ego boosting behavior as evident in the film."

Ego Busting:  There were quite a few instances of ego busting behavior.  One example was after Akeelah won the School Spelling Bee.  Dr. Larabee asked her to spell some hard words and when she didn't spell one right, a bully yelled from the back 'shes not so smart!' and started laughing.  You could tell it really bothered Akeelah because she ran out of the room and expressed that was why she didn't want to participate in the Bee.


Ego Boosting: One example of ego boosting that I saw in the film was when Javier, a friend Akeelah met at the District Bee, helped her pin on her number and wished her good luck in the Spelling Bee.  Another example was when Akeelahs brother told her she should do the Bee and gave her encouragement.


3. 'Explain how self-fulfilling prophecies shape the self-concept and influence communication.'

If you tell yourself you can do something, you are sure to follow.  Self-prophecies greatly effect the outcome of situations and help develop one's self-concept.  In the movie, Akeelah told herself that she wanted to win the National Spelling Bee, and she did!  Additionally, her community gave her awesome support and told her that she would do great.   Many community members even helped her study.  Their support had a big effect on the outcome of the Bee.  If her community did not show their support the way they did, I am confident that the result would not have been the same.


4. 'Identify one stereotype depicted in the film.'

One instance of stereotyping that was spotted in the film was when Akeelah's brother said that she would be going up against a bunch of rich white kids and that she would get torn up in the competition.  He implied that white kids/people are rich.


Another instance was when Dylan's father took him aside after Akeelah almost beat him in Scrabble and said something like, 'If you can't beat a silly black girl in scrabble, how are you going to win nationals?'  To me, he implied that a black girl like Akeelah can't be smart. 


5. 'What factors influenced Akeelah's perception of the importance of the Spelling Bee?'

There were quite a few factors that influenced Akeelah's perception of the importance of the Bee.  One factor would be when Akeelah's mother talked to her and told her about how she dropped out of college and told her to not follow in her footsteps after Akeelah was thinking about dropping out of the Bee.  Another factor would be when she realized how much it effected the perception and reputation of her school and community.  Her participation in the Bee gave good publicity to her school and community.  I think another factor that made the Bee important to her was the fact that she made a good friend, Javier, from it.  She found a group of kids she could connect and relate to and she felt like she belonged.  The influence of her new friends as a result of the preceding Bees made the National Bee important to her.  The main factor that made the Bee important to her was the fact that her community was relying on her and had great faith in her.  She felt that making them happy made the Bee important.


6. 'Using the Pillow Method, explain the disagreement between Akeelah and her mom regarding the Spelling Bee.'

Background:  Akeelah is studying for the Spelling Bee and as a result is ignoring her school work.  She has so far worked her way up to compete in the District Spelling Bee and doesn’t want to stop now.  Because of her studying for the Bee, she is failing her classes and needs to do summer school.  However, during the summer is when she would have to study her hardest for the Spelling Bee. Akeelah really wants to do the Spelling Bee and does not like being at school.

Position 1: I’m right, she's wrong
(From the point of view of Akeelah) She has worked very hard to qualify for the District Bee and has the support of her principal and from Dr. Larabee. She is excelling in spelling and wouldn’t want to let her principal and Dr. Larabee down.  She also made friends that she can study with that support her.  Additionally, the principal made her Spelling Bee preparation go towards some school credit.  Her mother is wrong to make her give up all her hard work after getting this far when school can be made up another time.  She is also wrong because she doesn’t know or ask Akeelah whats going on in school and has no idea what Akeelah goes through regarding bullying, etc. 

Position 2: She's right, I’m wrong
Akeelah’s mother is right to say that she should be worried about her other school work.  If Akeelah hates the school so much, why doesn’t she do her school work to avoid spending more time there than she has to?  She could always compete in the Spelling Bee next year, after she's back on track with her schooling.

Position 3: Both are right, both are wrong
Both Akeelah and her mother are right.  School is important and should be focused on to be successful, and Akeelah has already come thus far so why would she turn back from competing in the Spelling Bee?  School could be made up at another time because the principal is on board, and Akeelah could compete in the Spelling Bee next year instead of this year.

Position 4: The issue isn't important
Both the Spelling Bee and school are not important when looking at the big picture.  Because either could be made up at another time, it doesn’t matter what Akeelah decides to do.  If she focused on school, she would be able to participate in the Bee next year.  If she did the Bee, she would get some credit and would be able to make up school work later on thanks to her principal.  What she choses doesn’t matter because she will be able to do both in the long run.

Position 5: There is truth in all perspectives
Both perspectives of the issue have truth to them, and Akeelah shouldn’t be so focused on getting her way of competing in the Spelling Bee.  Her mother has the right intentions to worry about her grades and how she is doing in school.  In the long run, having peace between Akeelah and her mother is what matters most and she has the opportunity to do either thing in the future.

7. 'If you were to write a tweet about a lesson that could be learned from this film, what would your tweet say?'


I would say, “I just watched ‘Akeelah and the Bee’ and I want to mention some important lessons I took from the movie.  You can accomplish anything, even when the odds are against you.  You can succeed at anything as long as you dedicate yourself to it.  When you feel overwhelmed, have faith that your hard work will prove successful, and know that your family and community will always help and support you.  When people put you down, know that they are intimidated by you, and walk away with confidence.  Know that you are infinitely valuable and are surrounded by people who love you.  Ultimately, never give up when the going gets tough.  Always do your best and take pride in your accomplishments.  These are the lessons I received from watching ‘Akeelah and the Bee,’ and I hope that you can apply them, just as I plan to.”

Reflection on Chapters 3 & 4

Kristen Halbritter
September 21, 2016
COMM 320
Reflection 2

Chapter 3

1) The Film "Way Way Back"

"Can you think of significant others who have influenced how you think and feel about yourself?  How have those messages affected the way you communicate with others?" -Looking Out Looking In pg. 67

 I can think of people who have lowered and raised my self esteem.  I had a "friend" who would make negative comments about the way I dressed and about how my face looked, especially when I would break out a little, and would negatively comment on a lot of other things as well.  However, since then, my boyfriend has helped me with my self esteem a lot over the duration of our relationship.  He has seen me when I've looked my worst and would still think I'm beautiful and would make sure I was aware of it. 

Before I was in a relationship with my boyfriend, the other person I mentioned before was the person I spent the majority of my time with. (I look back now and wonder why I spent so much time with them when they would only make me feel awful about myself.  You live and learn I guess.) Anyways, when I was with that person a lot, I remember being more to myself and more of a hermit rather than wanting to be around other people. I think that had a lot to do with my self esteem. I think that I felt pretty worthless a lot of the time and didn't want to be around a lot of people because I believed everyone felt the same way my "friend" did about me and my looks. Now, after a lot of reassurance and lots of positive comments and gestures, I feel a lot more confident and feel less intimidated speaking my mind and going out with other people.  I feel that I have more worth and feel more confident with the way I look.  Positive comments have greatly impacted my communication with others, and I feel that it has even helped me with my stuttering problem because of the confidence boost. 

2) Talking with Little Girls

a. "Do you think people talk differently to little girls than they talk to little boys? If so, offer examples."

b. "What impact does communication with children have on the development of their self-concept and self-esteem?"

c. "Do you generally agree or disagree with the author's central point about talking to little girls? Explain why or why not."

 -Looking Out Looking In pg. 73

A. Yes, I think people talk to little girls differently than they talk to little boys. For example, the first thing I say about my little cousin, Jesse, is that shes so cute.  I think about the way she dresses and how beautiful shes going to be when she's older.  Her sister, Rowan, I also comment on how cute she is to her mother. (Shes a baby).  Most older kids or people want little kids to like them when they are around them.  And the easiest thing to say to a little girl is "You look so pretty!" I mean, you can never go wrong with a comment like that.  You're sure to make a friend of the little girl with a comment like that.  However, if you tell a little boy how cute they are or comment on how they dress, they won't like you too much.  They'll respond with a disgusted face and won't be too impressed with you.  With boys, you talk about trucks and other interests they may have to make a connection with them.  

B. If you comment on a little girl's appearance too much, they will begin to think that being pretty is important and wrap themselves up into making sure they look that way. Comments like that gives hints that that is the way they are supposed to be. If you don't talk to them about other things like their hobbies and interests and only comment on looks and beauty, their personhood gets fully wrapped up in that one thing.  That is why it is important to talk about books and other interests so little girls do not think their self worth comes from the way they look.  If little girls are repetitively told that they look pretty, they will begin to anticipate and expect that comment and will work to get the comment.  If they don't get the comment they are looking for, their self-esteem may be lowered because that is now a part of their self-worth. 

C. I definitely agree with the author's central point.  Before reading the article, I never really thought about how something as simple as a comment can effect a little girl's future self-concept so much.  I agree because I see the point she makes as valid.  As I explained above, what you comment on or take interest in with little girls or boys helps them determine what is important.  We should try to connect on a deeper level with little girls by asking about interests instead of bringing up looks and appearance.  From now on, I plan to bring up interests instead of looks when talking with little girls because I believe doing so will help them in the future with their perception of self-worth and self-esteem. 

Chapter 4

1) The comedy "Dear White People" 

"When do you stereotype others? How does that affect your relationships with people from different backgrounds?" -Looking Out Looking In pg. 108

Because of media like movies or the news, I think people are conditioned to stereotype people of different ethnicity or background. The media portrays certain character types for different ethnicities and therefore conditions the public to see people of that ethnicity in the same way.  I'll be honest in saying that I am guilty of stereotyping others.  However, after I correlate something bad with someone just because of their ethnicity, I quickly correct my thinking.  I know stereotyping is wrong, and I think it is a very corrupt and inaccurate way of thinking.  Being Native American and being immersed in the culture and surrounded by my family that is greatly involved in the Oneida Nation, I have seen first hand the negativity, misconceptions, and even discrimination towards Native people.  

Because I correct my stereotypic thinking and actively try to avoid thinking that way, I think it has no affect on my relationships with others.  One of my best friends is Jamaican, and I feel comfortable among any group of people.  It may not affect how I treat others, but what goes on in my mind, if I'm among a group of people with different backgrounds, is whether they think that I think badly of them. In other words, I worry about what they think I'm thinking.  Ultimately, I feel that my current relationships are not affected by stereotyping.  When I think about media and how it has affected people and how they think, I have to speculate whether or not perceptions of how others think has prevented me from making new friends from different backgrounds.  In other words,  I wonder if someone has avoided me because they think I wouldn't want to be friends with them because of what they think I think of them. In that aspect, stereotypic thinking may have negatively affected potential friendships.  

2) The film "Enough Said"

"Has your narrative opinion of another person shifted after receiving new input from others?" -Looking Out Looking In pg. 112

Yes, plenty of times.  Additional information has negatively and positively affected my perception of people.  When the new input was negative, the majority of the time I would be in shock and couldn't believe it because my original perception and knowledge of the person was good. When the new input was positive, it would improve my perception of the person.  However, after receiving negative input about a person, I don't let it affect my relationship with them.  Everyone makes mistakes, no one is perfect, and I think of how everyone deserves to be loved.  If they don't experience love, how can the person change their ways? If I treat them differently after receiving bad information, what does that say about me?  It makes me no better.

Reflection 1: Chapters 1 & 2

Kristen Halbritter
August 31, 2016
COMM 320
Reflection 1

Chapter 1

1) The movie Boyhood... (page 12)

"How have events from your upbringing affected the way you communicate today?"

*I am being completely honest and transparent here. 

I believe the way someone was raised by their parents and the experiences they had while growing up greatly influences social tendencies, including the way they communicate with others.  To give a little background on my upbringing,  I was raised in an Seventh-Day Adventist home with a twin sister and single mother. When I think back on my childhood, I cannot single out just a few specific events that effected the way I communicate today but rather just small events that occurred regularly in my family and circumstances that were out of my control that also effected me.  For example, based on certain conflicts when I was younger, I now tend to avoid face to face conflict at all costs and I am not very good at maintaining eye contact at times.  Because of this, I tend to be a "people pleaser" and do not disclose any information/feelings that may upset the other person.  For example, I will give in to other people's suggestions even if I do not necessarily want to do what they want to do (there are few exceptions with people I am especially close to).  Additionally, I have a speech impediment that is not too noticeable now, but was quite severe when I was younger.  Kids in my class would comment or make fun of my stuttering and I believe, as a result, that I am now quiet and shy because of it. 

2) How Personal are Your Facebook Relationships? ( page 15)

- "How many would you regard to be highly personal?  How many are highly impersonal?" 

Only a handful of people that I have as friends on Facebook are highly personal, maybe about 10.  A lot of people that I have as Facebook friends are very impersonal. Some are acquaintances and some are just people I have seen in passing or exchanged a couple words with.  I would say I probably have about 50 that are highly impersonal. 

- "Which factors noted in this section (unique, irreplaceable, interdependent, disclosing, and intrinsically rewarding) affect your appraisals?" 

 I would say that I maybe have about 4 unique, irreplaceable, interdependent, disclosing, and intrinsically rewarding relationships. 

- "What percentage of your communication with these people occurs exclusively on Facebook? Through other mediated channels (phone, text, email)? Face to face? How does this ratio affect your friendships? 

With the person I am most close to, I would say that 50 percent is face to face and 50 percent is through mediated communication (mostly Facebook messenger).  That is because we are not together all the time and use Facebook to communicate during some of those times.  With another person, I would say that 85 percent of my communication with them is face to face because I have many of the same classes with them and they are also my roommate.  The other 15 percent is through texting. I think the ratio is good for my relationships.  The majority of our deep conversations occur face to face and the more shallow conversations occur through mediated communication.  I think the ratio keeps everything in balance.

Chapter 2

1) Social Networking, Survival, and Healing (page 46)

- "How often do you give or receive interpersonal support through social media?"

I would say I give interpersonal support to people quite regularly on social media, at the very least once a week, or a couple times a week.  This usually occurs when I ask someone I am already close to about their day and they open up to me about little struggles such as being super tired or not doing so well on a quiz, etc.  I then give some sort of support and encouragement. I receive interpersonal support about the same as how much I give.  Ill open up to someone about little everyday struggles if they ask about my day or week and they will encourage me.  

- "Can you think of a time when you received social support from someone you didn't know in person?... Was that support similar to or different form the kind you receive from people you know?"

I can think of quite a few times I have received social support from an autonomous person, but not on social media so much as getting an encouraging note or someone writing an encouraging verse and slipping it under my door.  That kind of support is very different, to me, than the support I get from people I know.  It is different because the support I get from people I know is more personal.  I shared with them my personal struggles and know that they care about me.  Because I also care about them, it feels more special hearing it from someone you love and know rather than receiving a word of encouragement from a person you don't know so well.  However, getting encouragement from people you don't know is wonderful in its own way.  You feel cared about, but in a different way.  You feel supported and comforted knowing that someone is thinking of you even though they may have no idea what you're experiencing. Even if they know what you're experiencing, it still feels different, at least to me.  I guess for me it is difficult to put into words.  

2) Alone Together (page 49)

- "To what extent do you prioritize mediated communication when you're in face-to-face encounters with others?"

It depends on the people I am with at the time.  If I am face to face with people I am not so close with, then I will prioritize my mediated communication if someone I am closer to is trying to talk to me through it.  However, I do not use mediated communication to the extent of being rude or not paying any attention to whats going on among the people I am currently with. If I am face to face with closer people, then my means of mediated communication will not be watched as carefully and I will avoid using it as much.  

- "How would your important relationships change if you created device-free zones and times?"

I think they would improve.  My mom quite frequently complains about my sister and I using our phones at the table during dinner or any meal and my boyfriend sometimes thinks, while we are watching a movie, that my favorite part of the movie was my phone.  So I try to not use my phone when I am spending time with him and I think it would be good to have device free times for different events or circumstances when I am with people.  I think my important relationships would grow even more important and personal if they were more device free.  This even applies to my spiritual life.  If my life was more device free in general, I think my spiritual walk would also improve. :)

Introduction

Hello! As you can see by the title of my blog, my name is Kristen Halbritter.  I am a senior here at Andrews University studying Animal Science Pre-Veterinary Medicine.  I am a native of upstate New York and have lived there all my life.  I love the outdoors, sports, and fitness. 

For my two truths and a lie:


I personally know a person that ran in the Olympics.

I have been mistaken for a 14 year old girl many a time.

I went to Italy for three weeks this summer for family vacation.